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Writer's pictureSantina Wheat

Beyond Control: 5 Ways to Protect Your Peace in Unpredictable Moments



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Worrying about that next outcome

As our country faces the outcome of a major election, it’s clear that the response will vary—some people will feel a deep sense of satisfaction, while others may experience frustration or disappointment. Although elections are particularly high-profile examples, moments like this remind us that, throughout life, we’ll encounter situations where outcomes lie beyond our control. Whether it’s a company restructuring, the loss of crucial funding, major shifts in regulations, a pandemic, or new legislation, these situations can disrupt our lives, heighten stress, and leave us feeling unsettled.

In such moments, it’s natural to experience strong emotions. How we cope can shape whether these events empower us to grow or lead us to feel drained. Some coping strategies bring peace and clarity, while others add to our stress. Fortunately, there are ways to care for yourself in times of uncertainty, regardless of whether you feel thrilled, disappointed, or somewhere in between.


Five Strategies for Self-Care During Times of Uncertainty & Lack of Control


1. Acknowledge Your Emotions—They’re Valid!

In the face of upheaval, it’s essential to allow yourself to feel whatever emotions come up. You might experience frustration, sadness, anger, worry, or even relief. Rather than dismissing or ignoring these feelings, embrace them as part of your response. Take a moment to breathe deeply and recognize that your emotions are a natural reaction to change and uncertainty.

Although you might hear advice to “shake it off” or “let it go,” remember that doing so effectively requires first acknowledging your emotions. Avoiding them often only delays their impact and can lead to greater stress in the long run. Giving yourself the space to feel helps you process what’s happening and build resilience for whatever comes next.

2. Focus on What You Can Control

When facing situations outside your control, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and powerless. Instead of fixating on what you can’t change, redirect your energy toward what you can influence. This shift helps you regain a sense of agency, even if your actions are small.

Consider setting boundaries that protect your mental and emotional space. For example, if you’re feeling especially stressed, choose to step away from conversations about the topic or avoid doomscrolling through news feeds. You might even turn off notifications for a while. Redirecting your attention to areas where you do have control—whether in your reactions, your environment, or the decisions you make about how to spend your time—can restore a sense of balance.

3. Recenter with a Grounding Practice

In chaotic times, grounding techniques can serve as a powerful way to come back to the present moment and reduce stress. When anxiety is running high, try a simple mindfulness exercise. Focus on your breathing, paying close attention to each inhale and exhale, or mentally scan your body, releasing tension as you go. These practices can calm the mind, create clarity, and help you feel more centered, even if only for a few minutes.

Other grounding methods might involve stepping outside for a walk, spending time in nature, or even sitting quietly with a hot cup of tea. Find what helps you reset and reconnect with yourself; these simple actions can anchor you during turbulent times.

4. Lean on Your Support System

When facing challenges, connecting with others can be profoundly helpful. Reach out to trusted colleagues, friends, or family members. Talking through your feelings with someone who listens without judgment can provide clarity, validation, and comfort. Remember, your support system is there for moments like these.

Even small gestures, like sending or receiving a supportive text, can lift your spirits. Sometimes, knowing that someone else understands your experience helps put things in perspective and reminds you that you’re not alone. Allow yourself to lean on others and remember that, as social beings, we’re wired to support each other through life’s ups and downs.

5. Practice Self-Compassion

When big disruptions occur, it’s common to feel pressured to keep everything running smoothly. If you can’t meet all your responsibilities as usual, self-criticism may creep in, leaving you feeling inadequate or guilty. Practicing self-compassion can help counteract this.

Remind yourself that nobody has all the answers or total control over life’s outcomes, and that kindness toward yourself is crucial during tough times. Acknowledge that you’re doing the best you can with the circumstances at hand. Practicing self-compassion doesn’t mean lowering your standards; it means recognizing that you’re human, with limits and needs just like anyone else. Treating yourself with patience and understanding fosters resilience, allowing you to regroup and move forward, one step at a time.


Moving Forward: Reflect and Reassess

Once you’ve processed your emotions and taken steps to care for yourself, give yourself the gift of reflection. Regardless of whether the outcome aligns with your hopes, taking time to reflect allows you to consider what you’ve learned and what you might need moving forward.

Think about how this experience has influenced your values or priorities. Did it highlight areas of your life where you want to focus more attention? Did it reveal any boundaries you need to set? Allow yourself to consider what changes, if any, you want to make in your own approach as a result.

In doing so, you’re not only taking control of your response to life’s unpredictability—you’re shaping a mindset that will support you in every area of your life. By building the habit of reflecting, you strengthen your resilience, ensuring you’re better prepared for whatever life brings next.


Embracing Resilience and Finding Purpose Amid Uncertainty

Remember, uncertainty and change are inevitable, but with the right strategies, you can navigate these moments with strength and clarity. Acknowledging emotions, focusing on what’s within your control, practicing grounding techniques, connecting with your support system, and exercising self-compassion create a strong foundation for resilience.

As a healthcare professional, your work impacts lives every day, and that purpose is worth safeguarding. By building and refining these self-care habits, you’re not only protecting your well-being but also ensuring that you can continue serving others with clarity and dedication.

In the end, resilience isn’t about pretending that everything is fine. It’s about finding ways to stay centered, purposeful, and at peace—especially when life’s path takes unexpected turns. With these tools, you can face moments of uncertainty with courage, grounded in a sense of purpose and empowered to continue your journey with balance and joy.


If you’re feeling the weight of burnout or struggling to find balance in uncertain times, you don’t have to face it alone. Coaching can offer personalized support, tools, and strategies to help you reconnect with your purpose and protect your peace.

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